Tuesday 13 December 2011

Life without my family


Every night before I sleep, I say a prayer. I tell God to watch over my family, to guide and protect them and to give them many more years.

I was brought up to spend time with the family, to talk about my problems, pain, success and accomplishments. Here I am 6 years after, lonely, broke and working very hard to make an impact in life. I miss my family everyday. I miss the beautiful smile of my mother, the wise words of my father and the banter with my one and only sister. Nigeria is many miles away, and even if I wanted to fly to say hi, money holds me back and tells me to say good bye to that idea.

My family gave me life, I was brought up to always see the positive side of things, to believe anything and everything is possible and never be defeated. These words and mentality have kept me going but the question on my mind is..."For how long?" I want to put a smile on the faces of parents by being successful. That would be my way of saying thank you from bringing me up this way. I want to give them the life they never had, send them on great holidays, and build them a new house. Time is ticking, my parents are getting older by the day and having loads of illnesses and I'm yet to make it in this hard cruel world. What makes it more painful is the fact that I think about some of the things they have done, and I cant even match it. Taking a loan of £4,000 to pay for my masters, buying me my 1st car and even fro bringing me into this world.

It's hard to tell people how I feel about my family, especially in a society where family values isn't respected. My family plays a big part of my life and just in case I never get a chance to say thank you to them, I just want  the world to know that the love of the family is worth more than silver or gold. Bring your children up to love and respect people, and to believe that anything thing is possible if they believe and work hard at it. One day when I have my own family, I want to be the best dad in the world, just like my dad.

Just thought I'd write about my family and  dedicate this to the my dad, mum and sister. You guys are the best and you are the reason I live.

52 comments:

  1. It just brought tears to my eyes...

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  2. I didn't know you.. But I am glad you valued what was most important.. Many stil alive and do not know! Bless your soul.. R.I.P

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  3. I don't know ur personally but this is so emotional. May God grant u eternal rest. All ur heart desires that wasn't accomplished for your parents will definitely be fulfilled by God.

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  4. Wat a cruel world we live in,all ur dreams and aspiration is yet undone...A gem is lost.the reason behind ur death is unknown but is clear to the all knowing being...sleep well beloveth

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    1. Sleep well beloveth,I do not really know but God this so painfuLl.haaa deji the reason behing your demise is known to only God.RIP dare. GEM.

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  5. Rest in peace Deji...

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  6. I can't control the tears...I just can't believe you're GONE! All I have right now is memories of you. And I pray that all your heart desires that wasn't fulfilled be granted by God Almighty.
    My heart is heavy! Still in shock. I pray the Lord grant you rest and may He be with your family too

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  7. Deji, may God give u eternal rest. Can't stop crying

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  8. Ȋ̝̊̅ δσητ̲̅ know yuh in Person βϋƬ what uv got hia brot tears 2 my eyez! Ȋ̝̊̅ know dat Almighty God will duh more dan u expected for ur parentz. REST WELL IN THE BOSSOM OF ALMIGHTY.

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  9. Hi Deji, I don't know you personally, but i can see a lot of similarities in our lives. I believe in Life after death and i'm sure you do also. Sleep well brother and take your rest. RIP

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  10. May God grant you eternal rest and your family the fortitude to bear this great loss. You will be greatly missed.

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  11. May God grant you eternal rest......i dont know you but after going through your blog and facebook page i can truly say a real Gem is lost....May God grant your parents and sister the fortitude to bear the loss...Rest In Peace bro!

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  12. Give roses to the living....not a comment when you were alive....You left footprints so deep....You'll never be forgotten..........ever.

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    1. give roses to the living.....i like that!!!

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  13. Hi Deji, you will never be forgotten. i am still expecting you to turn up at the Incubation Centre... I will miss you greatly. May your soul rest in perfect peace. Amen.

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  14. never to be forgotten,a priceless gem, a good man, memories of you are forever...............R.I.P. Deji

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  15. "..........One day when I have my own family, I want to be the best dad in the world, just like my dad..............."

    Theses are your words above, Deji, death why take a gem? why?...........R.I.P

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  16. This is nice knowing you had a great heart.... Sad you gone.... May d lord guide, bless n give ur family d strength to pull thru this.....

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  17. I don't know you but you have sure made an impact in your generation R.I.P

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  18. Even though i mourn, i still celebrate your life. A true inspiration to many. You Sure conquered mate .

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  19. May you rest in peace Deji

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  20. RIP Deji!! still in shock!

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  21. May we walk across the pathway of life, leaving men footprints to follow! May God comfort your loved ones!
    Take your rest, Deji, rest has come!

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  22. Deji - you were a role model, not just for your own generation, but all generations. You had a natural ability to span all ages, all walks of life and all types of people. You lived and breathed your dreams every day. You had a permanent smile on your face, even when times were tough and you always lit up a room. Your memories will continue to shine their light. Your parents, whilst devastated should be proud of raising such a son - I was extremely proud and priviledged to have known you. Rest now my sweet Deji x

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  23. Death terminates d struggle of man,Deji,i know u wanna do a whole lot 4 ur parent,i pray ur sis accomplishes that while u r resting in peace,i dnt know u,but ur blog speaks volume! Keep restin'

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  24. May God grant you eternal rest Deji

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  25. O death, where is your sting? Rest in Peace Deji, its beginning of life in heaven.

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  26. Rest in peace Deji, i pray the Lord comforts ur family. Ur parents and sister must be very proud of u for the love and appreciation u showed to them. you will meet some day to part no more. Amen

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  27. I still can't believe it, I'm speechless and in shock. You were my friend, one of my best friends ever. We were neighbors, we played together, we studied together, sleepovers, video game sessions till 4 am, we invented the "drink a lot of water" alarm clock together, you told me about your crushes, you were my friend. You loved life more than anybody I know, you brought a smile to everyone's face. You were a great friend and I will never forget you. May God grant strength to your parents and sister. A bright, wonderful young man has left and the world will always be a dimmer place from now on. Rest in peace my friend, I hope that we will meet again somehow.

    Maxim.

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  28. Wow, I never knew you...only know you through my friend....but thank you, your life has taught me so much

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  29. I never knew u but all I heard about u has changed alot of things between yesterday when I heard it and today. My dear I pray for eternal rest and for your family dat God grant them the fortitude to bear ur great loss. U were admired by all rest in peace bro

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  30. Deji...the first thing anyone notices about you was how handsome and charming you were...you could compete with denzel washington anytime. the next was your permanent smiley face...warm and trusting...but the most important thing about you was your genuine heart, your uncommon passion for success and your ability to make people comfortable around you. i remember Lasu days...i remember our brief conversations....i wish i kept in touch with you...i could beat myself up for that. Rest Deji....i pray with the whole of my heart that FAME continues. Rest.

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  31. RIP Deji. You are indeed a rare gem

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  32. I've been staring at your picture on my dp and I still cannot believ it. God Knows best. We weren't close but back in LASU,you were dating my friend at the time and always thought about how your surname had my name in it. I can literally hear your voice. I last saw you on NTA a few years back when you came to Niaj to promote your mag and I was glad for how much you had grown and was doing something great. Your transition is really sad. May God grant your Family and Loved ones the fortitude to bear your loss. RIP Deji Osobukola

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  33. All I have is memories of u.....R.I.P Deji

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  34. Wow!!! Still stunned about the news of your death deji....we were not close but I spent abit of time with you back in naija and uk..you are warm,forever smilling and fun to be around...may you rest in Allah and I know he will fufill your desires for your parents through your sister. Rest in peace bro...

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  35. Tears fill ma eyes as i write this Deji.so so so so sad, the last time i saw u @ Hornchurch and u were talking about ur mag, u were sooooo happy. didnt know it would be the last time i saw u. RIP handsome. you definitely left ur footprints here on earth. you would always be remembered with fondest memories.im sure ur parents wld be soooooo proud of u.

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  36. Don't know what to say really. Its such a big shock but I pray God gives your family the fortitude to bear this loss. REST IN PEACE!!!

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  37. RIP Deji, I never knew you but it is obvious you were an inspiration to many

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  39. Touching, if only you knew.I am sure your family is very proud of you and loves you very much. I met you once and spoke to you a couple of times on the phone. You were nice, helpful and you gave me good advice while I was job hunting. In the short time you were here you achieved a lot and lived a good life. From your pictures you worked hard and played even harder. Here's to your amazing life and inspirational self. As you said "if you have a dream hold on to it" You inspire me and I have learnt from you, so I will hold on and make my dreams come true no matter what. You will always be in my thoughts and never be forgotten. May your beautiful soul rest in peace and my deepest condolences to your family. Adieu lovely soul

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  40. I just cried reading this, Deji I wish I could have had one last conversation with you, I never knew that was the last time I would see you :'( I miss you, and you really did impact my life. I love you Deji and I will never forget you xxx
    R.I.P Deji
    life is so short, and in your time, you managed to impact the world in a way that people will never forget

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  41. Cant really say i knw u bt wt ve read has spoken a whole lot.Though ur face luks familiar back dn in lasu,faculty of law bt i dnt knw if is d same person.Wch ever way it's certain u r resting whr u r,,pls continue to rest in peace.I pray ur sis will do more than wat u cnt do 4 ur parent.sun re ooooo

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  42. "My family plays a big part of my life and just in case I never get a chance to say thank you to them..." what a genius!! You clearly saw it coming and you were ready for it that shows how special and brave you were,,you were too much of a genius for this world, this world couldnt contain you anymore only heaven was big enough for you...REST IN PEACE

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  43. Rest in peace DEJI....i really cant stop crying . God will surely take care of your parent.

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  44. i can remeber the 1st time i met you in skool, u were just dat cool kid i wanted to be frds with. warm, always smiling and easy going...Deji Deji im still crying..RIP my dear Deji

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  45. Nihinlola fafore Mary (Dada)12 April 2012 at 09:51

    well i dont know you but sincerely u r not an ordinary being.U are an angel sent to this world to love and to be loved which has already taken place.Your words are like honey that makes the world go round.You have surely completed your mission and ministered your purpose which is "love" to everyone that have met you ,did not meet you but heard about you.The love you have planted in pple's heart will surely be productive and stories for pple to hear.Am sure u wish u did more but i trust God he is faithful and would perform his wondrous work of his for your family.Sleep well and rest in peace for he that started a good work in you would surely accomplish it!
    I have this strong feeling that you are an angel that fell on earth and has returned to it's dwellings.We miss yah and i love you for who you are!

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  46. Still in shock. cant still comprehend. Deji, Sun re o.

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  47. A colleague from UH13 April 2012 at 09:41

    A lovely guy, who's path crossed with mine a few times. I wish I had know him better as he could have taught me a think or two.

    What a lovely son too. Something for us all to think about.

    With sympathy to Deji's family.

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  48. Never fogotton....2 April 2013 at 15:01

    I was lucky enough to have known you. I am lucky enough to have been inspired by you. Your legacy lives on - within me and many others that you touched.

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